Connecting With Your True Nature
You are a unique individual with a special purpose. You have gifts and talents that are unlike anyone else's. And you are here to share those gifts with the world and make a difference.
The first step in uncovering your gifts is to connect with your true nature. When you're in touch with your spirit, your heart, and who you really are, you know what your gifts are and how to share them. You're also able to connect with your inner wisdom and guidance.
Sometimes we hold ourselves back from our true nature because we're afraid of what others will think. We worry that we'll be judged or that we won't belong. But the reality is that when you’re comfortable with yourself, you realize you belong everywhere.
When you're living your truth, you attract people who appreciate and support you exactly as you are, and things that once seemed difficult become easy and effortless.
(Read more on The Power of Ease.)
Here's a story to illustrate this point.
The Kitchen Faucet
When I lived in Mexico one year I had this sweet little bungalow by the water facing the sunrise. It had a kitchen, a cozy chair, a bed, a fridge, and simple storage. I absolutely loved it.
When I moved in, the faucet had very little water pressure. Doing the dishes took about 3 times as long because of it. It was annoying, yes, but my view while I washed the dishes was a lagoon, the water from the faucet was cold when the air around me was hot, and the kitchen counter was high so it never hurt my back.
I made the best of it. I hadn't realized I was unnecessarily tolerating it until the faucet got worse.
Two months into my stay the faucet began to lose 50% of it's already-low water pressure. It was actually kind of hilarious because I tried to talk myself out of the change. I thought, “LuLu, are you sure it’s not the same? It was very light before. It’s not so bad.” This went on for about 2-3 days until I sent a text message to the manager of the Airbnb I was renting and asked him to check it.
The mind will try to talk you in and out of everything to protect you. For a reference point, all change is seen as danger when it comes to the mind.
Now, hear me when I tell you what happened next.
The manager arrived within 15 minutes. He worked under the sink for about 30 minutes, expressed verbal frustration, and then left. He may have said goodbye but I don't remember.
He fixed the sink in 45 minutes, y’all. And I spent two months tolerating a slow drip.
The pressure multiplied, and it was like a waterfall in the sink. So much so that the drain had trouble managing it. The actual fix was easy — it was only me that made it hard because the little girl inside of me “didn’t want to be an inconvenience.”
Afterward, I washed my dishes with a view of the lagoon, in refreshing cold water, at the kitchen counter with the perfect height for my back, with an abundance of water pressure that cut my washing time in half. In half!
This story highlights a feminine wound of waiting: waiting to be chosen, waiting to need less, and thinking you have to not only tolerate what doesn't work but do it with a smile on your face. This is the opposite of your true nature. If something isn't working in your life, ask for what you need. Give yourself the opportunity to receive a response. Until you ask for what you need, you’ll never know, and you deny yourself and others the opportunity to support you. It doesn't matter if it's a slow drip or a huge problem. You deserve to live a life that feels true to you.
The Mirror
So how do you connect with your true nature? The first step is to get still and quiet.
Begin with 30-90 seconds. Gaze into your eyes in the mirror as you wash your hands, brush your teeth, moisturize your face, etc. Start slow, as this is powerful medicine.
When you’re ready, find a way to eye gaze while seated in front of a mirror. (Pro tip: move your favorite mirror to a space on the floor near your favorite meditation spot.)
Gaze deeply into your own eyes. It’s said the eyes are the windows to the soul, so what do you see?
Look for yourself.
Look for truth.
Look for eternity.
Reflect: Invite yourself into a sacred pause. Take a moment to breathe and connect: be with your body, reconnect to your intention and release logic for a moment. Welcome your innately intuitive intelligence into center stage.
How do you feel about what you just saw?
Feel free to take this opportunity to light a candle, take out your journal, and ask yourself to open by writing about what is coming up for you so far. What stands out to you? What are you seeing differently? What are you feeling resistance around? Who/what/how/where/what feelings do you experience?
Write linearly, or write in a stream of consciousness. Trust yourself and what flows through you. Do not try to control it. Let it flow. Keep the channel open.
In healing work, zooming out is just as important as zooming in. Regardless of where you go from here, go with yourself and with a sacred intention. This is your life: take it all in. Now, you just get to let go, drop into your body, and get curious.
In whatever way feels true for you, utilize this practice daily and with intention.
Be gentle with what you find. You are a holy being.
Stay in the Work
If you resonate with this story, enjoyed this exercise, and would like to explore further, I encourage you to register for Sacred Alchemy: my signature course for self-healing.
This course is your permission slip to heal whatever, whenever, however, and wherever. It is your guide to becoming something even more true to your original essence. The words, tools, and practices in this course will remind you are not ever alone, no matter how many times you separate yourself from all that you are.
There is always something you can do to create positive change in your life. You just have to be willing to open to it.